Feng Shui in the Bedroom & Unfinished Projects

Moving in together is an exciting milestone, but it also comes with its challenges—especially when it comes to merging two sets of belongings into one shared space. Too often, we focus on making room for things rather than making space for the people we love. That’s where decluttering, organizing, and Feng Shui come in to create a balanced, harmonious home.

And speaking of making space… I finally made space on my desktop by editing this video—ten years later.

Yes, you read that right. I filmed this video ten years ago. And then? I let it sit. For a decade. I told myself I’d edit it when I had time. And let’s be honest—we’ve all said that before.

Somehow, even during Covid, when I had all the time in the world, I still didn’t touch it. It was like that one drawer in your house that you swear you’ll organize one day—except my drawer was digital, and it had a ten-year-old video collecting dust.

But here I am, finally finishing it. And honestly? It feels amazing. Not just because the video is done, but because unfinished projects take up mental space, just like physical clutter. The longer we let things linger, the more they weigh on us.

So, I’ve come up with a new motto: Finish it or forget it.

If there’s something sitting on your to-do list, ask yourself:

  • Do I still care about this?

  • Is it worth finishing?

  • If not, can I let it go?

If it matters, finish it. If it doesn’t, free yourself from it. Either way, you win.

Which brings me back to decluttering—because honestly, finishing this video felt a lot like helping my clients clear out an entire closet.

In the project featured in this video, I worked with a couple moving in together. One partner was moving into the other’s home, and the biggest challenge was stuff. The closet was full, the storage situation was tight, and we needed to make room—not just for more belongings, but for both people to feel like they had a home in the space.

We started by decluttering, making intentional decisions about what to keep, what to donate, and what no longer served them. This wasn’t just about getting rid of things—it was about making space for a new chapter in their lives.

To maximize storage, we added a freestanding wardrobe from IKEA to keep everything organized within the bedroom instead of spreading items throughout the house. That one change helped create a sense of unity and balance, rather than making one person feel like a guest in their own home.

Beyond organization, Feng Shui played a key role in setting the tone for a peaceful, supportive relationship. Both partners had a metal element, meaning that neutral colors like whites and grays would enhance their sense of calm and stability. We incorporated these shades into the bedding, curtains, and furniture to create a cohesive and balanced look.

Other important Feng Shui adjustments included:

  • Symmetry in the bedroom – Matching nightstands and lamps on either side of the bed create a sense of balance in the relationship.

  • Intentional artwork – Instead of family photos, which can introduce external energy into the bedroom, we focused on images that symbolized romance and connection.

  • Removing disruptive elements – A large mirror opposite of the window going across the bed was creating too much active energy (chi), making it harder to rest. We moved it inside the closet to maintain function without disrupting sleep.

Your home should reflect the life you’re building together, not just serve as a storage unit for your belongings. By decluttering, organizing, and incorporating Feng Shui, you can create a space that feels intentional, peaceful, and designed to support your relationship.

And beyond your home, think about your unfinished projects. What’s something you’ve been putting off for years? Maybe today is the day you finish it—or finally let it go.

If you’ve been waiting for the right time, consider this your sign. Finish it or forget it.

Want to learn more about your Feng Shui element and the best colors for your space? Leave a comment with your gender and birthdate, and I’ll let you know.

For more personalized organizing and Feng Shui tips, feel free to reach out at info@spacetolove.com.

Tween to Teen Bedroom Makeover

While working here in New York I had the privilege to makeover my friend’s daughter’s room. She turned 13 last year and wanted her room to reflect her more grownup self. They grow up so fast! However, at any age, using the Space to Love® 5 step method: Setup, Sort, Select, Sanitize, Stylize™ is easy to help anyone achieve their goals to create the room they visualized and to stay organized.

We started with step 1, Setup. I made sure we had room to work and spread out. You need space to organize. We agreed on using the bed and the top of the dresser to sort items. If this wasn’t an option I always have a folding table on hand. I also have ready in my organizing kit: garbage bags, post-its, markers, scissors, box cutters, and cleaning supplies. Keep these items ready whenever you are taking on any organizing challenge. Continuing with the setup process we established specific areas of the room where items would be placed. Donations in one area and other areas for what she’s keeping, maybes (what she’s not sure of), recyclables, and trash. These are the common categories to start with and you may come up with other categories in step 2, Sort, so have your post-its and marker ready. We then customized categories that tailored to her specific needs, ie, blankets, memorabilia, family games, and products for her soap-making business. I was thankful they had a newly renovated basement with extra storage for these items because she doesn’t need access to them on a daily basis.

Once we had our Setup in place we moved on to step 2, Sort. When starting this step it is so important to remove or take out all the items from the closets, drawers or bins you are working on. Here we began with her makeup drawers and started sorting like items together. This may seem like a tedious step but it was so much easier for her to make a decision on which lipsticks/glosses to keep when they were separated from her eyeliners and blushes. We also sorted the cosmetics by color. Know that as you break the clutter down from a big pile into smaller ones, it streamlines the decision-making process when like items are grouped together.

Which brings us right into step 3, Select. Now that items were sorted she could make decisions with ease by seeing everything separated. At first, she felt overwhelmed until she started seeing like items grouped together. This made it clear to her that she had many duplicate items. At that point, she knew she only wanted to keep two light pink lip glosses instead of five. As we moved on to other areas she could easily tell me which hair products she wanted to keep and what stuffed animals she wanted to donate. By the time we got to her closet,  she was really getting the hang of it by keeping the best and getting rid of the rest. Her old t-shirts didn’t stand a chance.

Before we put anything back we completed step 4, Sanitize. We wiped all surfaces down including the inside of all the drawers. We swept the floor and cleaned inside the closet. The sanitizing process is so important, not only because of the current COVID situation but the idea that you are clearing out the old and negative energy. By sanitizing, you’re not only purifying your space but you’re allowing good things to come into your life. For these reasons it’s important to follow through with sanitizing before moving on to step 5, Stylize.

Step 5, Stylize. This is probably one of my favorite steps. We had so much fun making her ideas come into fruition. She wanted a celestial theme with gold stars and dark blues. We started with paint swatches and simple drawings to figure out the wall layout. Then we moved on to furniture ideas which lead to changing up the floorplan to maximize her space.

For inside the closet we fell in love with the dark blue wallpaper with gold stars. This was peel and stick wallpaper that made it easy for application. That segued into spray painting all the closet shelves and brackets gold.

To keep costs down we purchased the furniture and accessories from Ikea, Homegoods, and Amazon. What also helped with the budget was hanging the wallpaper, painting, and assembling all the furniture ourselves.

Overall I’m thrilled with the way the project came together. More importantly, my friend and her daughter are so happy with their new space.